On March 17, 2018 I lost my grandfather. I am heartbroken and feel lost to know I now live without any grandparents. Five years ago, I lost my Nana. Navigating a death is not an easy thing to cope with, especially for a young person.
I am overwhelmed with the support I have received from my family and friends and so thankful so have such amazing people in my life.
Here’s the thing about losing someone. Right when it happens, everyone is there for you. For the first week or so, there are flowers sent and hugs exchanged. “Thinking of you” texts and “I’m so sorry for your loss” calls. Although it’s comforting, during the first week of life without a loved one, you can barely wrap your head around what has happened.
As time goes on, you slowly start to accept what has happened, and that is when others seem to forget. Life goes on, and it almost seems like a slap in the face. So what? Every thing just goes back to normal and every one moves on while I have just come to terms with what has happened and now my world is shifted?
Grief is a process, and it can be a long and grueling one. So often, I think people disregard just how powerful grief is and the impact that it can have on a person’s life. When dealing with a loved one who has lost a loved one, please try to remember this. The sadness doesn’t end when the funeral does. The tears don’t stop just because the service does. Grief goes on, long after you may realize.
The point of this post isn’t to get pity or sympathy, but rather to encourage people to be there for each other. Check up on the ones you love. Tell them you love them. Understand that grief doesn’t come and go in a week, and often the most painful moments of missing someone come weeks, months, even years after losing them. Love each other and be there for one another, you never know when someone may need it most.